Rib-Stealing Boyfriend Mooches Off a Friendly Potluck, Starting Beef When He Gets Uninvited From Future Parties

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Dec 9, 2023 5:00 PM EST

There are rules in socialized society that must be followed at all times. Please keep your pants on when you're taking public transportation, please help old ladies cross the street, and pleasepleaseplease for the love of God bring something to a potluck when you're asked to bring a dish. 

Potlucks were invented so that the hosting house wouldn't be forced to cook a multi-course meal for a crowd of incoming guests. So as the clever humans we are, we decided to distribute the food-making burden so that we could all have a fun time at the party. Well, apparently some people didn't get the memo. In our next story, one friend group is faced with a serial-moocher, who not only shows up to every potluck empty-handed, but leaves happily with several tupperwares of free food. Fortunately, this girl is not willing to stand idley by and watch her ribs, taters, and greens slip into the hands of a looter. 

Scroll for the juicy details of this tantalizing drama that'll leave you drooling for leftovers of your own.

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  • 01
    r/AmItheAsshole Posted by u/tittybean4 AITA for telling my friend's bf that he shouldn't have been allowed to eat? Not the Some friends and I decided to do the trend where we have a dinner and everybody brings a food that starts with the first letter of their name.
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  • 02
    There is one friend of ours that's a bit of a moocher. Whenever we go out she never pays for stuff, whether it's the dinner bill, tickets for the movies etc, we always end up paying for her. But everyone accepted this and doesn't really have an issue with it.
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  • 03
    However recently, it's become worse. She's been dating this guy for a couple of months and she brings him everywhere with her, even when he's not invited. So now we have two people to pay for. Also I feel like I have to say that they have jobs, they're not struggling. It'd be different if they were broke, then of course I wouldn't mind.
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  • 04
    But ya, we had the dinner last night and everybody brought food and put a lot of effort into it.These two however showed up with absolutely nothing. Not even a bottle of soda. We were annoyed but nobody said anything. It wasn't until the end of the night when they were leaving, that I cracked a little.
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  • 05
    The friend's bf was taking home ALL the bbq ribs that were left. I repeat, ALL of it and it was a lot. Like considerate at least. He emptied the entire tray of ribs into a container. 1, be That's when I politely asked "Can you maybe not take all of it? The others might want some too".
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  • 06
    He got all defensive and asked "Why are you treating me like I'm stealing all the food?". I clarified that I never said such a thing and that I only asked that he didn't take ALL of it.
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  • 07
    He got angry, plopped the ribs back and said, "Fine, I don't need your food" to which I replied, "It kinda seems like you do and to be honest, you shouldn't have eaten at all since you didn't contribute again, as usual". Then my friend came, took him and just left without saying anything. Now apparently, she's angry with us...mainly me.
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  • 08
    Most of my friend group doesn't think I did anything wrong but there are a couple who are saying that I shouldn't have said anything. The thing is that I didn't even say anything to my friend because I don't mind that she doesn't contribute.
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  • 09
    Her boyfriend was the one irritating me. He eats the most food but doesn't contribute, drinks the most alcohol - doesn't contribute, orders really expensive meals at restaurants - doesn't contribute towards the bill. I guess I got kind of annoyed and snapped at him. I tried phoning her to clarify that I don't have any issue with her but she's ignoring me. I dunno, maybe I should've left well enough alone.
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    TopazWarrior 17 days ago NTA - "and you should tell them both that you can't afford to support your own habit AND theirs too!". Honestly- who wants friends like that anyway? Reply Share 2.5k dannihrynio 17 days ago Agreed, absolute garbage friend! But also Op says that she doesnt mind the whole dynamic that they always have to pay for friend....but Op be honest... yes you do.
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    hannabarberaisawhore 17 days ago Partassipant [1] NTA, their freeloading needs to stop being tolerated. It's very nice of you to not mind doing it for your friend. But how good of a friend is she if she brings another non-contributor? 1.9k Reply Share Legitimate_Try5361 17 days ago I'd have stopped inviting them long ago
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  • 12
    r/AmIthe Posted by u/tittybean4 Update: AITA for telling my friend's bf that he shouldn't have been allowed to eat UPDATE I wanted to clarify, the reason I said I don't really have I problem with her not contributing, is cos I personally never paid for the her in terms of dinner, tickets etc.
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  • 13
    I've paid for a exactly a drink, some popcorn and parking before. But she obviously still benefits from me and the others when we bring food and drinks and she brings nothing. I've always thought it was unfair but nobody wanted to say anything so I left it alone. I should also mention that she's a friend by association, I've only known her since the beginning of this year.
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  • 14
    I confronted her like many of you suggested and started off by saying I thought it was unfair her bf was taking ALL the food and that's why I spoke up. She said she's sorry, and the bf only did that cos he didn't think anyone would mind. I should say that even though she eats at these things, she's never taken copious amounts of food before.
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  • 15
    I said that I don't speak on behalf of EVERYONE but I feel it's unfair that she keeps bringing her bf and also that she never contributes to anything. Since she had just been apologetic, I thought she would respond by saying that she would start to contribute but instead, she asked why I cared so much because I don't even eat ribs and that I embarrassed her and her bf for nothing.
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  • 16
    I don't eat meat but that was beside the point. My friend put a lot of hours into cooking those ribs just for this guy to take em all? No, it's not right. And I didn't make a scene, HE did. I spoke very politely. So I explained that again and said that she's been an inconsiderate friend.
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  • 17
    She said, "I don't know why you're attacking me when nobody else has a problem", then said that she didn't want to associate with me anymore. I said that was fine and that was the end of it. I told the others the outcome and the friend that introduced mooch to us was really mad that I caused a "rift" between everyone over food.
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  • 18
    So the group essentially split up and those who were irritated with me will continue to hang out with her. The others who secretly found her annoying but were too polite also spoke up and decided to branch off too.
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  • 19
    Our mooch free group hung out a coupla times already and all the complaints are finally being released Also EVERYBODY brings something now which is nice. Not just that but it's a more relaxing and stress free environment without them.
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  • 20
    The "introducer" friend is trying to poach some of the new group to no avail which I think is funny but anyway, that's it Sorry if this was anti-climactic. And I know this is like juvenile, high school stuff but hey, that's what happened.
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    Bubbly Satisfaction2 7 days ago Partassipant [2] Good for you! I think your former acquaintance is trying to poach on your friend group because her pockets is starting to whine. LOL! Paying for another person feels a bit different, when its just the two of them versus in a group of nine.
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  • 22
    Cheerily Terrified. 7 days ago Supreme Court Just- [132] I love that this is such a normal person happy ending. She didn't learn a lesson and then you all laughed together like a U.S. sitcom. You fairly quietly ditched the annoying people and their enablers and now can hang out with people who all chip in and make an effort.
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  • 23
    friendlily 7 days ago Pooperintendant [50] I think this happens more than it should. People who feel the same way as you won't speak up, are glad that you did, but only back you behind closed doors. I think that's crappy but hopefully they'll learn and grow from this. It's nice that they created their own mooch-free group that you're a part of though. At least you don't have to deal with mooches one and two, and their followers. Good riddance!
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  • 24
    "We had dinner last night and everybody brought food and put a lot of effort into it. However, these two showed up with absolutely nothing. Not even a bottle of soda. It wasn't until the end of the night when they were leaving, that I cracked a little... The friend's bf was taking home ALL the bbq ribs that were left. I repeat, ALL of it and it was a lot. Be considerate at least! He emptied the entire tray of ribs into a container."
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